I find it helpful for every month to have a theme. I recently became obsessed with wanting
everything to be “ Wonderful” both for myself and everyone else. I had been preparing to
teach the Spring Cleansing Intensive with Keira Mitchell. Also, I had been studying Dr. Ivan
Misner’s book, “Who’s in Your Room?” It’s a book about keeping “bad” people out of your life
and filling your life with people you want to be with and those who share your values. During
this time of preparation and study, I had two significant dreams. I dreamed that you could go
into these little cubicles like a Catholic confessional. In the cubicles there were special
psychologists. I was told that you could tell the psychologist anything, get things off your chest,
and that you would then feel “wonderful.” After that, I dreamed that I went to work as a
psychologist at a clinic owned by my dear, deceased mentor, Dr. Joan Koenigsdorf. It was the
most beautiful office building that I had ever seen. It even had a formal dining room where the
staff and patients were served gourmet meals. One of the other therapists explained to me
that the clinic was designed so that both the staff and the patients would feel “wonderful.”
Where is the Wonder in Your Life?
I began pondering what “wonderful” meant and how I could help people have it. Abraham
Joshua Heschel, author of “The Sabbath” said, “the beginning of our happiness lies in the
understanding that life without wonder is not worth living.” Wonder is a profound feeling of
awe, curiosity, and amazement that we tend to lose as we age. It’s like how a child feels at
Easter, Purim or Christmas. One Hebrew translation of “wonderful” is miraculous. Wonder is a
feeling that gives life meaning and fosters a sense of gratitude.
How Could You Have More “Sabbath” Moments?
I wanted to recapture some of those childlike feelings of anticipation (waiting for a miracle) and
share those feelings with others. I proceeded to decorate the vacation rental, barn and
barndominium for Easter. I found some great, large, plastic eggs at the Dollar Tree store. Some
of the eggs light up and some are large and iridescent. I call them my psychedelic eggs. Eggs
symbolize birth and new beginnings. I set tables with Easter tablecloths and yellow napkins
folded to look like flowers. Floral air fresheners helped set the stage for Spring. To further
ensure festivity, I put out chocolate eggs. The guests will even have little cups of chocolate
Easter eggs in their bedrooms. All of this wasn’t just a gesture of hospitality, it symbolizes my
desire for everyone to have a “wonderful” experience. With just a few dollars and a trip to the
Dollar Tree, you can create your own “wonderful” experience.
What Would be Your Version of a Psychedelic Egg?
In my coaching and in the Spring Cleansing Intensive Class, I want to teach people how to create
the most “wonderful” atmosphere possible in both their business and in their homes. We start
with decluttering and cleaning because order induces feelings of clarity and serenity. Michael
Gerber, my business guru says that the outside world is in such a state of chaos that people are
clamoring for order. Michael Gerber believes that people need structure in their lives to
counteract fears of powerlessness and pointlessness. He explains that an orderly business
shows employees and customers that you know what you are doing. They are safe with you.
An orderly business tells your customer that they can trust your product or service. Order tells
your employees that they can trust in their future with you. The whole point of the Small
Business Class I teach is that we put a structure in place to maintain orderliness.
Are People Able to Sense That Your Life Has Structure and Order?
After cleansing and ordering, it is time to create ambience both at work and at home. In the
Spring Cleansing Intensive class, Keira Mitchell and I want to help you make “wonderful” new
memories in your house. We teach a concept called Making Your Home a Harmonious Haven.
To expand this idea, I started researching what elements engendered a wonderful memory. I
thought about what had made my own childhood holidays so special. I dwelled on the thought
of happy families celebrating Sabbath dinners together. I listened to gospel music about going
to Grandma’s house, such as Garry Moore’s song about times with his beloved Mama Lucy.
Garry sung that nobody was ever left out and he felt like he belonged when he was at her
house. We all yearn for a place where we feel protected, welcomed and accepted
unconditionally. These holidays and family dinners don’t have to be costly; they require
thought. It’s an atmosphere and it’s a feeling. You can’t just buy it.
How Do You and Your Guests Feel at Your House?
Some of you are thinking that this could not happen in your family because there is too much
strife and dysfunction. Keira Mitchell and I address this issue using tips that we’ve learned from
Ivan Misner’s book, “Who’s in You Room?” We help you decide what to say no to, what to say
yes to, and how to say no in a nice way. We’ll talk about what to say and what not to say at the
dinner table. We should heed Heschel’s wisdom that it should be spent “in charm, grace, peace
and great love.” Decide some uplifting topics ahead of time. Enlist other family members to
help keep conversations healthy. If you are hosting, it’s important to have a gathering that’s
refreshing and not exhausting. We want you to clean your house both literally and figuratively,
and have the most “wonderful” Spring celebration ever; something your friends and family will
remember forever.
What Do You Want People to Hear at Your Dinner Table?
Besides taking the Spring Cleansing Intensive, I have some short cuts you can take to create
wonderful memories. You could have a family celebration at my vacation rental. Think of all
the advantages–you don’t have to clean or decorate! In fact, you could just pop an entree in
the oven and serve already prepared side dishes and desserts. I won’t tell. I can even make
your difficult relatives disappear. Have them stay at my vacation rental instead of your house.
Just say you wanted to treat them to a special experience. Let me clean up their mess and
wash the linens. With one of these arrangements, you’ll get along better than ever. Let me
help you make it “wonderful.”
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